Turning Traumas Into Gifts
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Bob Cooley explaining the process of transmuting traumas and negative experiences into gifts and more life.
Physical, Thinking, Emotional, Spiritual
Physical/Psychological/Emotional/Spiritual Forms of Trauma, Accumulation of Dense Fascia and Scar Tissue, Tissue Regeneration, Normal/Healthy Tissue Compared to Scar Tissue, Transmuting the Low into the High, Experiencing Trauma Removal/Healing
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I'd like to talk something about how trauma affects the body and then you because of that. As you know, we're always talking about how to stretch muscles naturally. When animals stretch, they naturally contract muscles when they stretch and when they do it results you an increase in flexibility. And the reason why muscles get more flexible by contracting and stretching isn't mainly because of a muscle change, rather it's the fascial material that surrounds your muscles gets altered dramatically, cleaned up and repaired when you stretch naturally.
Trauma can come in different forms. You could be physically traumatized through a blow or repetitive stress or by sitting too still and not getting enough movement and that would create scar tissue and cause dense fascia to accumulate in your body. A person can also be psychologically traumatized or emotionally traumatized or spiritually traumatized and as a result of any of these forms of trauma, scar tissue would also be created and dense fascia would accumulate in the body as well. And the question is, where does that show up when that happens? Well, the muscle groups that go from the crown of your eyebrows over the back of your head to the nape of your neck, down the back outside of your shoulders, down the back of your arm and into your ring fingers are the muscle groups that primarily register trauma; regardless of what kind of trauma and where it happened to you. And those muscles are also associated with the internal immune function of your body. That strong part of you that deals with the health of your lymph nodes and fighting disease in your body. So when a person is traumatized, these muscle groups start developing dense fascia and scar tissue.
Are you stuck with that trauma for the rest of your life? Actually that's not how that works. It's designed for that trauma, like compost, to be altered so that really positive things can grow out of that, things that allow you to be greater than what you were like before you had the trauma if you take the trauma out. So what I found in the process of rehabilitating my body from my pedestrian automobile accident was that when you naturally allow your body to tense and let the fascia resist as you stretch, it actually removes the damaged fascial material and scar tissue out of the body painlessly. That dense fascia scar tissue goes into your circulatory system and then your lymphatic flow system removes that from the circulatory system and then you pee it out, poop it out, sweat it out of your body to eliminate it. But some real magic occurs in the process of removing trauma.
So when you find trauma in your body in either your self-stretching or having somebody assist you when you're stretching, that material doesn't feel like untraumatized tissue. That traumatized tissue has much more resistive force to being stretched. It's hard to the touch. If when you want to make a movement of your body, if you have dense fascia scar tissue, you have a thought to move your arm like this and you put in that idea and instead your arm moves over here. That's dense fascia and scar tissue redirecting your idea because your brain doesn't make that correction for the dense fascia scar tissue. So if you close your eyes and somebody moves your arm and you have scar tissue in your arm and you open your eyes, your arm isn't where you think it's going to be. Your brain still thinks it's going be where that idea would drive you if you didn't have that dense fascia scar tissue in the first place. That's an amazing thing to experience. So as you self-stretch or have other people stretch you and take this dense fascia scar tissue out of your body, the fascia then gets returned to being very resilient, moist, elastic state and it becomes reconstituted essentially and your other tissues start to regenerate and you come out of that trauma.
What happens is that whatever part of you was traumatized, it thwarted you from that part of you developing. So if you were physically traumatized, then can't make a movement or you have a physiological distress because of that physical trauma. If you were psychologically traumatized, then you can't develop certain personality traits because that damaged tissue is associated with specific muscle groups that are associated with developing of high personality traits. If you were emotionally traumatized, you don't get to mature emotionally so what you're attracted to doesn't mature. And if you were traumatized spiritually, it interferes with the course of your life. So where you would normally naturally be living and going because you have this incredible unique genetic endowment that nobody else has that you have and that drives you into a destiny to contribute to the whole world because of your uniqueness, that gets interfered with.
Normal fascial material kind of looks like this. This is my model of a piece of fascia. It moves in eight different directions when you do this and you can see it's very elastic and when you put forces into it from the outside, it deforms and then assuming that you don't take it too far, it springs back into a natural alignment. And notice that the weight is supported through the members here and not through the main structure itself. This is what takes all the force. So this is what normal fascia looks like in the body if it's not traumatized or after you stretch, this is what it turns into. But instead of this, this is what it turns into with trauma. It becomes very hard, very rigid and not elastic. And when you stretch, what ends up happening? It ends up breaking down this density through enzymatic activity and physical forces and then returns this incredibly rigid material back into the most incredibly and energy efficient material. That's what happens with trauma.
So say somebody is traumatized in a certain way that interferes with their ability to be creative. That's associated with muscle groups on the back of the shoulder that've been emotionally abused. Somebody's very artistic, creative in a certain way, and for whatever reason they were thwarted from developing or not encouraged to be developed. Well now the person's going be depressed and more depressed because what most people don't know is that you create out of depression. In other words, you're transmuting a negative emotional state and that's what becomes a creative thing that you create. But if you have trauma, it thwarts the development of transmuting that negative, or what most people call negative emotion, into a positive gift. Say you were physically traumatized in a particular way, you now can't play golf the way you want to, you can't run the way you want to, you can't dance the way you want to. And if you take that trauma out, you become a better golfer, a better dancer, a better runner than you ever would have been. In other words, there's a certain gift that you get if you put in the effort with yourself and with other people helping you to remove these traumatized parts of your body. And when you do that, you get more insight in developing into that part of yourself than you would have if that trauma never happened. Now I'm not recommending trauma in order to develop yourself. I'm just saying that if you have that, then you can transmute that into an incredible gift for yourself.
That's what trauma's all about. So when you remove this dense fascia and scar tissue out of a person, they will literally remember that event, but will see it from now and not when they were in it; not from when they somehow got detached or stopped attaching or stop connecting to other people and themselves; not from when they became depersonalized and out of their body they left, viewing themselves from outside and no longer being within themselves. And when they take that trauma out, and remember your nerves don't grow to that that dense fascia and scar tissue, so there's no feeling or pain in that tissue when you remove it. And your body naturally generates the amount of tension it takes in order to remove that trauma, whether you're doing it yourself or with other people. And when you do that, that part of you now is free to develop. So here you are 30 years later and you had this trauma that many years ago and you would think, "God, is going to take 30 years to catch up?" It doesn't. All of a sudden that part of you starts developing at an extremely fast rate. So this is traveling much faster than current time and you're catching up and diversifying that part of yourself in a way that otherwise, unless you had really amazing positive conditioning, probably wouldn't have developed. So there's this whole time warp phenomenon that happens when you're taking out trauma.
I've stretched a person before where I stretched trauma out of their body and when we did that, they stood up and looked at an iPhone and said, "What is that?" And I said, "Well that's an iPhone." And they go, "What's an iPhone?" And this was a modern person! That's how much they were warped, it's called an anamnesia. That they were brought so much into the past to when that phone wasn't even developed yet and they're surprised when they look out into the world. So when you come through trauma, you get to come back through time into the time that now exists. And you get to experience life the way you would have if that didn't happen, only broader and more positively.
So everybody's full of trauma. The weird thing about people is that if a car has a flat tire, most people don't throw away the car. But if you meet somebody and they're obsessive compulsive and really critical, you're thinking, "Asshole". And then you just discard that person instead of thinking, "Hey wait, some part of them has been broken and that's why they're behaving that way." And if you fix that part, then they would be the way you would want them to be for them and for yourself. And so one of the things that happens in developing yourself is that you develop this increased compassion and empathy and compathy and sympathy for other people. So when you see them behaving in ways that are not as good as the way you do it or other people do it (and possibly terribly so), instead of judging them about it (and no problem with the judgment or criticism because you need to know it's not a good thing) you would then go, "What happened that caused them to be that way, that is so not benefiting them or anybody else?" when you know a person is capable of being functional in that way.
So if somebody is really in a bad mood, instead of you taking it personally and going, "I hate it when people are in a bad mood." I have no problem with you hating it when they're in a bad mood. The question is, how do you handle yourself and them when they're in a bad mood? And the only way you can really know how to do that is by developing yourself and removing your own problems. And then when you see somebody else's problem, you have a detachment to their problem but still have a connection to them. So that you can actually then be very accepting of what you see them doing which is totally unacceptable. But you have to accept that it exists. And then in the process of doing that, you start to figure out what they would need. And your body while that's happening is already defending you so you don't have to worry about defending yourself, that's already automatically happening when you go into that compassionate state. And then you can figure out how to really help that other person. And the best part about it is that when you do, you get something out of the deal that you always wanted; that you would have never guessed that you needed. That's what you need to do. We've got to turn this back into this. And you do that by stretching naturally and having other people help you. I hope that helps, have a great day.